I have started to suffer with premature ejaculation... how can I delay orgasm?
Often it takes only one PE episode or a negative reaction from a partner to start you worrying. And worry only aggravates the problem.
Over the last year I have started to suffer with premature ejaculation after only several minutes of intercourse. Previously my wife would always achieve orgasm before me. Do you have any advice in terms of any medication or tips in order for me to delay orgasm and keep my erection for longer?
I wish you had provided a little more information such as your age and general health. Because this has occurred only over the last year with your wife, I’m a little concerned that your Premature Ejaculation (PE) may be due to a physical ailment.
First, let’s look at the psychological causes for premature ejaculation (PE). Often it takes only one PE episode or a negative reaction from a partner to start you worrying. And worry only aggravates the problem. In a case like this, it’s essential to talk to your partner and explain that you need reassurance and patience from her. Stress is also an aggravator of PE, so if you are under any pressure, you would benefit from addressing your concerns and taking steps to improve your stress levels.
Physical causes of premature ejaculation can include depression from low serotonin, low dopamine levels or a weak prostate... most of which are more common in middle-aged and older men.
Try masturbating before sex, and on a more frequent basis in general - this will help to desensitise your penis a little. Other options involve wearing a cock ring, learning some pelvic floor muscle exercises to help gain control, breathing deeply during intercourse, pleasuring your wife orally or manually first so she’s very close to climaxing when you enter her, and the stop and start technique, which involves firmly squeezing your penis just below the head when you’re close to coming. Additionally, it might be worth giving a Delay Spray or Cream a go - there are several available at Lovehoney. But if you’ve discounted simpler external causes, then have a chat with your GP - make sure you explain that this is a recent occurrence and see what they think the problem might be.
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