• Help! My girlfriend comes like a man.

    Help! My girlfriend comes like a man.

    It sounds as if your girlfriend is one very satisfied lady, which is fantastic, but for your sake you’ve got to work out some kind of compromise.


    Question for Julie

    My girlfriend comes like a man! Basically our lovemaking consists of my girl having a massive orgasm, and then she's useless - completely beat and just not up for me carrying on so I can come. What can we do? We can't always hope for a simultaneous orgasm!

    Julie Answers...

    You’re absolutely right. You can’t always hope for a simultaneous orgasm - and in some respects they don’t tick all the boxes anyway, because it means you miss out on watching each other climax.

    It sounds as if your girlfriend is one very satisfied lady, which is fantastic, but for your sake you’ve got to work out some kind of compromise. It’s true that orgasm can be an exhausting experience - not just physically but also biochemically, as our bodies are flooded with a cocktail of hormones that make us feel relaxed and sleepy. But they shouldn’t leave us comatose - so there’s no reason why she can’t get it together to ensure you’re satisfied too.

    My advice would be that you both need to get as close to orgasm as possible before one of you takes over to get to the finishing line. And I’d suggest that you take it in turns for who goes first. Then hopefully it won’t be more than a few moments later that the other one reaches their orgasm, so there’s minimal effort required.

    There’s a saying that it’s not just the destination that matters, but the journey. However in this instance, I think you’re probably giving the journey plenty of attention, and it’s only reasonable to expect that you get there too! I’m sure you can negotiate it between you.


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