• I've got no confidence in the bedroom - any advice on how to change this?

    I've got no confidence in the bedroom - any advice on how to change this?

    Sexual confidence is something that all couples have to create together.


    Question for JulieQuestion:

    I'm not the most confident in the bedroom and feel like I'm letting myself and my girlfriend down. Have you got any tips and advice on what to do to improve my confidence?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    Sexual confidence is something that all couples have to create together. Every single one of us is unique, so no matter how many partners you’ve had, or how many sex manuals or porn films you’ve seen, you still need to learn about your partner as an individual and find out what turns them on.

    My top tip for anybody who wants to become a more confident lover is to ask their partner what they enjoy. Start by asking your girlfriend what kind of kissing turns her on while you’re snuggling up on the sofa. Then if you get into the bedroom, begin stroking her all over and ask her what areas of her body are her most erogenous.

    When you make contact with her hot spots, get her to show you the kind of touch she prefers. In just one evening you’ll learn more about her than any guide could tell you - and your confidence will start to soar.

    The Greatest Sex Tips in the WorldRefreshingly frank and funny, actress and presenter Julie Peasgood delivers practical information to transform your sex life. The Greatest Sex Tips in the World explores the world of eroticism, revealing secrets and techniques that will energise and enhance your enjoyment.

    Comments (1)

    • Emily: April 25, 2011 16:49
      Yes i agree with this. I was really shy and self conscious when i was first with my partner. He used to tell me i was beautiful, just relax and let go. It took me a while to become confident and take control, but i think the more comfortable you become as a couple, the more confident you are infront of them. Sex is a natural thing that everybody does. Relax, and just do whatever your body does, dont think too much about it. Let go, and just enjoy. Also, ask your partner through out if she/ he is enjoying what you are doing, and if she is okay with it. Mine does to me, and it makes me feel safe, confident and gets real pleasure.
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