• How frequently should we have sex and which positions are best for conception?

    How frequently should we have sex and which positions are best for conception?

    If you’re trying to conceive, the best time to have intercourse is on the day you ovulate and the five days leading up to it.


    Question for JulieQuestion:

    My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for about ten months, and I remember reading somewhere that it’s actually possible to make love too often? If this is true, how often should we be having intercourse, when is the ideal time, and can you suggest the best positions for conception please? I’m 37 and my wife is 34.

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    If you’re trying to conceive, the best time to have intercourse is on the day you ovulate and the five days leading up to it. Your wife can work out her ‘fertile window’ with an ovulation calendar (try www.babycentre.co.uk) or a kit from a chemists. And she should look out for her cervical mucus becoming clearer, wetter and more slippery when she’s ovulating.

    If you have a normal sperm count, then you’re fine to have intercourse once a day on your fertile days. But if your sperm count is low, then it’s advisable to make love every other day at this time, so you can build up to your most fertile level (we’re talking quality as opposed to quantity!).

    The best positions are with you on top or rear entry, as these will help to pool the sperm close to wife’s cervix. She’ll increase her chances even more if she then lies on her back with her legs slightly raised for 20 mins. It’s worth noting that four out of ten healthy couples in their 30s will take more than twelve months to conceive, but consider having a chat with your GP so they can start monitoring things for you both - and Good Luck!

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    Comments (2)

    • anne balaam: March 29, 2011 16:41
      how long does it take to get pregnent i woz on the depo injection a yr and a half ago i did fall preg but then had a misscarriage and am trying again but no luck as off yet im 34
    • Suzie: April 01, 2011 13:13
      Anne, that's terrible, so sorry you had to go through that.

      You may as well ask "how long is a piece of string?", the answer is that there is no answer.

      Depending on the nature of the miscarriage, there may or may not be additional barriers to conception. Your GP or gynaecologist will be able to tell you more about that on an individual basis, but if they didn't mention any problems such as scarring at the time, it's unlikely that there's anything in that to worry about.

      Miscarriages are unfortunately quite common, which in a round-about way is good news, because it means that that one sad event does not mean by itself that you are less likely to have a baby. Again, talk to your doctor if you have any concerns.

      At 34, you're not too old - far from it! - but you will soon be heading towards the riskier age group. Still, try not to concern yourself too much with that, as stress is probably the least effective way to help make it happen.

      Really, all anyone can say is to keep at it and best of luck. If when talking to your doctor you can find out about fertility testing and alternative methods of conception such as IVF, all the better: knowing all the avenues available to you and then (fingers crossed) not needing them is much better than leaving it too late. They may also be able to give you some tips for conception. It also might be worth looking into things like the Yes Baby Fertility Lube - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19350 - to make sure all the boxes are ticked.

      I hope it happens for you soon. Best of luck. x

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