• I have been with my partner for 4 years and never orgasmed. What is wrong with me?

    I have been with my partner for 4 years and never orgasmed. What is wrong with me?

    How much stimulation is your partner giving to your clitoris? Most women need this in order to climax.


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    I'm 19 and have been with my partner for four years. I was a virgin when I met him, and have now been having sex for three years. Every time we have sex I do get turned on but I never really feel anything, like him inside me or even feel like I orgasm/get any pleasure from sex. He says none of his other girlfriends have ever complained which makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you - but I do wonder how much stimulation your partner is giving to your clitoris? Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to climax, and because of a basic design fault (I.e. the clitoris is outside, not inside, the vagina) a little manual help is necessary for most of us to orgasm during intercourse.

    Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet VibratorTry asking your partner to stimulate you, or you can touch yourself whilst he’s inside you. Alternatively consider a little bullet vibe such as the Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator to speed you on your way - they’re easy to use during intercourse and the least threatening toy for him, as he may be unused to having a third party sharing your fun.Talking of which, sex is supposed to be pleasurable and fun, so don’t stint on foreplay either - and spend some time pleasuring yourself when you’re alone too, so you know what techniques and movements take you to your happy place.

    Finally, don’t let him get away with saying none of his other girlfriends have complained! They may have had a different anatomy to yours and received enough clitoral friction during intercourse for them to climax, or they may have been stimulating themselves - which is what I suggest you do.

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