• I've got a butt plug and I'm struggling with the insertion. How do I get past the anus resistance?

    I've got a butt plug and I'm struggling with the insertion. How do I get past the anus resistance?

    You don’t mention the size of the butt plug. If you’re using one for the first time, then I suggest something small and slim.


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    I've just bought a butt plug from Lovehoney and I'm struggling with the insertion.

    How do you get past the resistance that the anus puts up?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    You don’t mention the size of the butt plug. If you’re using one for the first time, then I suggest something small and slim. Choose a good quality product made of silicone, as it has the right balance of toughness and pliability.

    And it must have a flared base, below the point where it tapers, to prevent any danger of it slipping up inside and disappearing. The simple answer to how to get past the resistance is good quality lube - and lots of it - applied and re-applied before and during play, both to the anus and the toy itself.

    I would recommend a water-based one, as silicone or oil-based lubes will damage a silicone toy (or latex condoms). Take plenty of time to build up. Slowly massage the whole bottom area, then start with the outside of the anus, before gradually easing in a lubricated fingertip and, only when ready, moving it around.

    Remember that our anal sphincter muscles are well practised at pushing things out, rather than taking things in. We’re conditioned from infancy to grip them closed, so when anything is about to invade our bottoms, our body’s response isn’t usually ‘Come on in’.

    It requires both a physical and a psychological shift to relax and allow something through where it’s normally one-way traffic. Give your sphincter - and your head - space to relax and adjust.

    When you’re ready to start inserting the plug, go very slowly, pausing, easing in a little at a time, to get used to the feeling, and only letting it slip fully ‘home’ into place when you feel ready. The general principle with a toy (or finger/penis) inserted into the anus is that once it is in, try to avoid pulling it right out during the session, as this will cause the sphincter muscles to close, making it more uncomfortable as you re-enter.

    Remember that a plug, unlike a dildo or vibrator, is not designed for thrusting, but for gradual insertion until it pops into place, where you would generally leave it to enjoy the feeling of ‘fullness’ whilst masturbating, having oral sex, or whatever.

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    Comments (1)

    • Captain Kinky: August 08, 2010 07:28
      I have been using plugs for a number of years now, but my wife is completely new to them. We bought her a small one to start out with, but were easily able to use one of my slightly larger ones right away.

      The key is lube, and lots of it. And don't just lube it up and expect to push it in. Slide it in and out, going that little bit deeper as and when it will allow. Don't be afraid to remove it completely to add more lube, you won't lose where you're up to .

      Even though this may not make obvious sense, with a larger plug it can help to push with your muscles as though you're trying to poo. You may find that this pushes the plug out as you push, but allows it further in as you relax. With even larger plugs, it may even be necessary to push with your muscles as you push with your hand.

      If you're ever having trouble with removal, then the most effective thing to do is to squat (or sit on the toilet) and push it out. Unless you've had an enema or douche beforehand, I'd advise removing the plug somewhere that's easy to clean up, or at least sitting on a towel, otherwise you may end up having to change your bedsheets..

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