• My boyfriend is well endowed and I'm petite, which makes intercourse painful. Any advice?

    My boyfriend is well endowed and I'm petite, which makes intercourse painful. Any advice?

    Always make sure you get enough foreplay so you’re fully primed and ready - and top up your natural moisture with masses of lube too.


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    My boyfriend is very well endowed - about 8.5 inches in length and 6 inches around. I'm small and very athletic and hence, tight. We are finding it difficult to have the varied sex life we would like without painful consequences for me (often during and always) after intercourse.

    It often means I have to take 1-3 days rest before we can try again. Can you advise as to how to handle this situation and how to minimise the after effects?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    Always make sure you get enough foreplay so you’re fully primed and ready - and top up your natural moisture with masses of lube too – that will really help lessen the pain factor for you.

    Steer clear of hard and fast thrusting and choose positions that won’t enable him to penetrate too deeply, so go for missionary, standing face to face, spoons, or with you on top so you can control the depth. Keep your legs straight when you can too, as the closer your knees are to your chest the deeper he’ll drill.

    Try stretching out your legs in the missionary position, and experiment with lying flat on your tummy as an alternative to being up on all fours for doggie-style.

    You may also find a ComeClose protector ring helps (£24.99 plus £5 post and packing from www.comeclose.co.uk) It slips over his erection and fits snugly against the base of his shaft where it then acts as a cushioned ‘spacer’ between you.

    The ring grips his shaft so there’s extra pleasure for him, but most importantly it prevents the tip of his penis hitting your cervix, as I suspect that may also be an issue for you.

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    Comments (2)

    • fos: May 19, 2010 16:27
      You should speak to your doctor about this too. Pain during intercourse may not just be caused by his penis - there are a whole host of things which could be a potential problem.

      Your cervix should be adequately moving out of the way during intercourse. Deep pain during intercourse could be a symptom of endometriosis, an STD, ovarian cysts, fibroids... the list goes on.

      I have been experiencing pain during intercourse for about 2 years. My boyfriend is quite well-endowed but it's never been an issue before. I've been told I have a "low cervix" but I'm scheduled in to have a laparascopy to determine that him simply being "big" is the cause of the pain.

      You should speak to your doctor and get a referral to your gyno department. You should also have an STD test done.

      I thought the advice to "use lots of lube" was fairly short-sighted since lube doesn't make a difference when there is an internal problem.

    • penfold: May 22, 2010 02:04
      i am quite a "big" dude 10 inch length and 6.5 inch round and all ex-girl friends have experienced pain during intercourse. But so far my fiancee and i make sure there is plenty of lubrication and with this, it is always fine and we both enjoy it because she is always wet. Ladies with "big" partners get used to it and ultimately enjoy sex after sometime with adequate lubrication but as the comment above says, ladies need to visit a gyno if pain persists during/after love-making to find out if something else is the matter.
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