Six steps to safe anal sex

Anal play is now becoming far more mainstream for both sexes, whatever your sexual orientation, it’s worth observing the following ‘anal rules’…

Anal play still carries a taboo tag, but its illicit ‘dirtiness’ only adds to the thrill. As it’s now becoming far more mainstream for both sexes, whatever your sexual orientation, it’s worth observing the following ‘anal rules’…

1. Hygiene is a must!

Scrupulous hygiene is a must. So bathe, shower, or use a bidet before - and always wash hands and genitals thoroughly afterwards. Fingernails should be very short and smooth - the skin inside the rectum tears easily and long nails can damage this fragile area.

2. Take baby steps

Take everything very slowly if it’s new territory for you. You can avoid pain if you use masses of good lubrication, massage extensively around the area first, and really take your time to allow the sphincter muscles to adapt and relax. Make sure to give each other progress reports as you go.

3. Use a suitable lubricant

Remember that unlike the vagina, the anal area isn’t self-lubricating, so it’s absolutely essential to use a thick, gooey, silicone or water-based lubricant - both latex-friendly for condoms - and to reapply it frequently. This will guard against damaging delicate anal tissue and lessen the possibility of condoms splitting. (Saliva does not count as lubricant by the way…)

4. Condoms = safety!

Always wear a condom (with the possible exception of monogamous couples who’ve been fluid-bonded for decades). Anal play is the riskiest transmission route for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections, so penises should always be latex-clad. Pop them on anal toys too, for safety - and to make cleaning up easier. Don’t use textured or ribbed condoms for anal - they can cause irritation to the delicate lining of the anus and rectum.

5. Wash to avoid infection

Never ever transfer a finger, a penis or a toy, from anus to vagina without washing it first. They may do it in porn movies, and you may think you’ll lose spontaneity if you stop to wash, but your safety is paramount here. No matter how clean your bottom is, anal bacteria are always present, and can cause nasty infections in the vagina, so don’t cross-pollinate.

6. Don't use numbing agents

Never use numbing sprays or creams for anal sex. It’s bound to hurt initially because it’s so unfamiliar, but if anal sex is incredibly painful, it’s probably not being performed correctly. So don’t mask any discomfort by numbing the area as pain is an important warning signal from our bodies that we need to be aware of.

Refreshingly frank and funny, actress and presenter Julie Peasgood delivers practical information to transform your sex life. The Greatest Sex Tips in the World explores the world of eroticism, revealing secrets and techniques that will energise and enhance your enjoyment.