Sometimes I find it really easy to come and other times it takes real effort. Why is this?

Your mood, how much foreplay you’ve had, how turned on you are, how much you’ve had to drink – there are dozens of reasons why it can happen.

Question:

Sometimes I find it really easy to come and other times it takes real effort. Why is this and what can I do to make orgasms happen more easily?

Tracey Says:

Your mood, how much foreplay you’ve had, how turned on you are, how much you’ve had to drink – there are dozens of reasons why some nights it’s easier than climax than others.  If you can’t quite get there on a regular basis though, be super alert for your personal orgasm triggers.

The more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the more effortless it becomes. And the more signposts of impending orgasm your brain can recognise, the easier it will trigger the orgasmic response. So think about what you get up to before you have sex but most particularly during it.

What things does your body do when it’s getting ready to orgasm? Do your thighs tense? Do you breathe harder? Focus on what your body naturally does on approach to orgasm, then exaggerate it.

If that doesn’t work, take the pressure completely off by giving up completely. Better luck next time!

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