• I'm a sexually active 53 year-old woman but I'm struggling to achieve proper orgasms. What can I do?

    I'm a sexually active 53 year-old woman but I'm struggling to achieve proper orgasms. What can I do?

    When you feel you’re close to climaxing, slow down and hold back, by either changing the stimulation to your clitoris, or the rhythm and position of intercourse.


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    I am in a relationship where the sex is really good. I don't always have a mind-blowing orgasm but I always enjoy the moment he climaxes and seem to have a few little orgasms.

    I am 53 and he is 42. I am more or less through the menopause and still manage to become well lubricated. Are there ways in which I can achieve a proper orgasm again?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    When you feel you’re getting close to climaxing, slow down and hold back, by either changing the stimulation to your clitoris, or the rhythm and position of intercourse - whatever works for you. Practise by yourself first, and then experiment with your partner.

    By deliberately delaying your gratification in this way, you should manage to build up enough sexual tension to then enjoy a substantial, proper orgasm, rather than a few little peaks along the way. Explore different breathing rhythms too - try breathing deeply, or panting if that suits you better.

    Or experiment with holding your breath through orgasm to see if this intensifies the experience. It’s crucial to do regular pelvic floor exercises - strong kegel muscles can lead to longer, more powerful orgasms.

    You could also try orgasm-enhancing gels, which work by encouraging blood flow to your vulva, so they multiply the sensations in your clitoris - Durex Play O Orgasm Gel is excellent.

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