Pegging - The Easy Guide to Anal Sex for Men

In recent years, pegging has taken the sexual world by storm! As more men become comfortable with their sexuality and start exploring anal play for themselves, it appears that the prostate gland has now become ‘orgasm central’.

As women discovered their own little hot zone, known as the G-spot, a while ago, it makes sense that exploring your prostate and anal play with a partner is a great way to find out more about this exciting new territory!

Read on to find out exactly what pegging is, how to do it, what specialist sex toys you’ll need and why it won’t make you gay...

 

What is ‘pegging’?

When a man and a woman love each other very much they want to explore every inch of each other’s bodies, including those areas originally thought of as ‘out of bounds’.

Pegging is when a woman uses a strap-on harness and dildo to anally penetrate a man, and indulge in female-male strap-on sex.
 

So what is it supposed to do for me?

Pegging is extremely pleasurable for both the female and male partner.

Men are actually better designed for anal sex than women as the nerve endings inside and outside the anus are extremely sensitive so they will respond well to a firm stroke, a lustful lick or a teasing touch.

The prostate gland is a special part of a man’s body that is directly linked to his penis and testicles, which means that by stimulating this round nub, located around 2 inches in on the front wall of the anus, it will directly affect the rest of his genitals and result in some explosive orgasms!

Pegging allows all these little sweet spots to be accessed and enjoyed to their full potential, which many men struggle with on their own.

But don’t forget, women get pleasure from pegging too! Using a strapless strap-on such as a Feeldoe provides her with incredible internal sensations or using a vibrating harness, such as the Sedeux Corsette Dildo Harness with Vibrating Bullet, will feel fabulous each time the bullet hits her clit.

There’s also the element of submission and domination involved with pegging that many find enjoyable.
 

Will it make me gay?

No, enjoying pegging or anal play will not make you gay.

Your sexuality is determined by the people you find attractive (as well as lots of other factors), not the toys or sexual acts you enjoy. If we were to apply this theory for all sexual orientations, we would have to conclude that any woman who enjoys oral is a closet lesbian. See how ridiculous that sounds?
 

It’s dirty and wrong!

Not really.

If you go to the bathroom at least 30 minutes before indulging in anal sex, you will find that the lower part of the rectum is clean. However, if you really want to make sure that you’re ready for action, use an anal douche to clean out anything remaining in there.

As for pegging and anal play being ‘wrong’, you might want to try arguing that case against the millions of couples who enjoy it on a regular basis!
 

What pegging products do you recommend?

A great lubricant for pegging is the fantastic Maximus Anal Lubricant. It’s thick, it’s silky and the bottle is fairly standard, so it won’t stand-out like a sore thumb on your bedside table. It also has the added bonus of a high glycol content, which means that it will feel natural and last for ages too.

When it comes to strap-ons for pegging play, you’ve got two choices: the standard jock-style strap-on harness or the strapless strap-on.

The Sportsheets New Cummers Strap-On Starter Kit is great for pegging as the jock-style straps sit securely on the body, allowing for a greater, more controlled thrust. It also comes with a small dildo that is perfectly shaped for locating and stimulating the P-spot.

Alternatively, you might like to use a strapless strap-on, such as the Toy Joy Strapless Vibrating Double Dildo. This clever gadget will stimulate her G-spot and his prostate at the same time, thanks to the opposing ends that are both designed for internal use. However, you might want to save this one for when you’re feeling more confident with pegging as it is a tad large!
 

Ok, I’m interested, how do me and my partner go about pegging?

Firstly, check with your partner that this is something you both want. Turning up with a strap-on, completely out of the blue, may have them heading for the hills faster than you can say ‘honey, I’m home’.

Check out this fantastic thread on the LoveHoney Community for some great ideas on how to approach the subject of pegging with a partner.

Secondly, get kitted up! You will want to decide between you what products you want to use but the bare minimum will be a strap-on and a water-based anal lubricant.

Choose something you both like and that fits your needs. If you’re new to anal play you will want a harness with a small dildo, such as the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Harness Dildo Kit, however if you’ve explored anal play before and would like something a bit bigger, why not try the Mantric Sysil Edge Adjustable Vibrating Silicone Double Dildo.

Thirdly, go slowly. Diving in, strap-on first, will only lead to problems so make sure you take your time.

Start with a little anal foreplay, exploring the area with lubricated fingers and maybe a small butt plug. Stroke, tease, massage and tickle the anus, making sure you’re both relaxed and warmed up.

Then add lots of lubricant to the strap-on and position yourself ready for action! Many people prefer to be bent over doggy style but others prefer to lie on their back with their legs raised, making it easy to access the anus. Feel free to explore and find what is comfortable for you.

Penetration should only begin when you’re both happy and ready. Ease in slowly, letting the male control the depth and speed, and be ready to stop at any moment. Once the sphincter is used to being stretched and your partner is comfortable, you can start thrusting and having some real fun!

Just remember to reapply lubricant whenever necessary!