• My boyfriend proposed to me over a year ago but he hasn't bought me a ring. What can I do?

    My boyfriend proposed to me over a year ago but he hasn't bought me a ring. What can I do?

    You need to know what’s going on here, because your fiance’s lack of action is ultimately going to sour your relationship if you allow it to continue.


    Question for JulieQuestion:

    My boyfriend proposed to me over a year ago but he still hasn't bought me a ring. We've talked about what we want to get, and how much it'll probably cost, and when we talk about it he seems like he's going to sort it out soon. But then every time he has a small amount of spare cash he buys something else with it.

    Is he putting this off on purpose? How can I make him see getting the ring as a priority? I assumed that after he proposed the ring would come soon, but it seems like it's never going to happen.

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    You need to know what’s going on here, because your fiance’s lack of action is ultimately going to sour your relationship if you allow it to continue.

    I think the main issue is that you need to be sure that he’s not putting it off because he’s got cold feet about getting engaged and ‘going public’. So I suggest that first you pluck up the courage to have a straight talk about what his intentions are - and what each of you wants - before moving onto the practicalities of the ring itself.

    As any girl will confirm, it’s what an engagement ring represents that matters - not whether it comes from Harrods or Argos. Nice looking rings can be bought for as little as £50, but you could even wear a cheapo costume ring - it doesn’t really matter. The ring of your dreams can be purchased further on down the line.

    Don’t just wait around and expect the ring to magically appear. Make absolutely sure that you’re both still feeling the same way about the future, then tell him how much it means to you that he makes this gesture - now!

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    Comments (1)

    • starsparkle: November 13, 2009 13:27
      I'm sorry to say this, but maybe he's changed his mind? Why did he propose WITHOUT A RING in the first place? He clearly doesn't value the tradition and sanctity of marriage. If my boyfriend proposed without a ring and hadn't bought me one a MONTH later I would be questioning whether he was serious in the first place at all.

      So, what were the circumstances of the proposal? Did he get down on one knee and make a big deal out of it or was he drunk and you were on your sofa together? If it's the second then I think he's decided he made a big mistake and would rather pretend it hadn't happened at all.

      Since this guy doesn't even have the sense to save the "small amount of cash" he "spends on other things" I would question why you want to be with him at all?

      I'd cut him loose. ANYBODY can propose marriage but being married is an entirely different thing.

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