I'm a 36 year-old married woman with diabetes and a very low sex drive. How can I get aroused?
You’re absolutely right that a low sex drive plus difficulty in becoming aroused is common in people with both type 1 and type 2 diabetes.
I am a 36 year-old women and I have had type 1 diabetes for 18 years. I have to inject myself four times a day. The problem is I have a very low sex drive. I don't think about sex and have trouble getting aroused. I have read that it is not uncommon in poeple who suffer from diabetes.
I have been living with my partner for eight years and have two kids. Sex is always started by my partner, I have never taken the lead or had any desire to. I have had this problem for many years long before I met my partner. Can you help - this is causing problems in our relationship.
You’re absolutely right that a low sex drive plus difficulty in becoming aroused is common in people with both type 1 and type 2 diabetes. But thankfully you don’t mention that you have trouble achieving an orgasm or suffer with vaginal infections - these can also be a problem for some diabetics.
I think it’s crucial that you have a frank talk with your GP about this - and that your partner attends your appointment with you. He needs to be reassured that your symptoms are to do with your condition, and not because you don’t feel attracted to him. Your doctor may also be able to offer advice - and possibly supplements - that will modify the side effects of your medication, or refer you on for some counselling.
It may help you to increase your intake of zinc too. Studies have shown that levels of testosterone (essential for libido in both men and women) may be raised by taking zinc, and the foods richest in zinc include red meat, poultry, crab, oysters, pumpkin seeds, and peanuts.
You’re having a problem becoming lubricated because of the decrease in blood flow to your vagina. It’s vital that you allow enough time to become properly aroused, and I think you’d really benefit from using a lubricant - there’s an excellent one on the market called Yes. It's the world's first and only certified organic personal lubricant - and because it's totally free from synthetic nasties or harmful chemicals, it actually nourishes, rather than irritates, the delicate vaginal membranes.
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