Elusive but effusive... how to find your G-spot
Some women can't find it, others deny it even exists but once you discover your G-spot you'll be well on your way to heaven.
One theory about the G-spot is that it’s actually the root of the clitoris. Another is that it protects the urethra during intercourse, which is why it’s also called the urethral sponge. Since its discovery in the 1940s by the German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg, the G-spot has spawned various theories and aroused heated debate. Most women today agree that it certainly arouses something - however, you need to find it first and that isn’t always easy.
It’s best to locate your G-spot when when you’ve emptied your bladder, and you’re sitting down or squatting, but you can lie on your stomach or on your back with your legs in the air - whichever suits you best. Place your palm face down on your vulva, and insert a lubricated finger inside yourself, crooking it forward towards your pubic bone.
You’re looking for a swelling directly behind this bone, that’s only about a couple of inches (3-5cms) inside your vagina - nearer the entrance than you might imagine. It’s a pronounced, spongy lump, around the size of a bean, on the front wall (the side closest to your tummy) and it feels more ridged and bumpy in texture than the surrounding vaginal walls. Don’t confuse it with the cervix, which is a smooth protuberance sited much higher up.
Try it with a toy or partner
You’ll know when you’ve struck gold because you’ll instantly feel like you want to pee - this is because the G-spot shares a nerve with the bladder. It’s a completely normal feeling - which will subside. If you’re having trouble locating the exact spot, you might want to get your partner in on the act, or play around with a specially curved vibrator or dildo.
The njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo is a curve of sleek, medical-grade steel that effortlessly hits the spot, and can produce mind-blowing orgasms. The G-spot is also easier to find after you’ve had an orgasm, because it gets slightly harder and increases noticeably in size, becoming more like a walnut than a bean.
Heaven and back
No matter how aroused they are, some women don’t find the G-spot does anything for them, and some even dispute its existence. Others find it so intense that they go to heaven and back with a monumental climax, and a lucky few also ejaculate - or ‘squirt’ - varying amounts of fluid (which isn’t urine) if they reach orgasm this way.
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