• I am a 38 year-old male and I am still a virgin. Any suggestions on ending my virginity?

    I am a 38 year-old male and I am still a virgin. Any suggestions on ending my virginity?

    I don't think losing your virginity is the main problem here, as I'm pretty sure you could go out on a Saturday night and sooner or later pull a girl.


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    I am a 38 year-old male and I am still a virgin. I am currently taking classes at a community college and I am wondering what women would be attracted to the fact that I am still a virgin.

    By the way, even though I never had any hands-on experience with sex I am very knowledgeable about locating a women's G-spot, etc. Any suggestions on ending my virginity?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    I don't think losing your virginity is the main problem here, as I'm pretty sure you could go out on a Saturday night and sooner or later pull a girl who would be willing to sleep with you. You could even visit a sex worker if it was just a matter of ending your virginity.

    What seems to be missing in your life is a relationship with a woman which gets to that intimate stage when making love is a natural development.

    Instead of wondering what kind of woman would be attracted to a 38 year-old virgin, try thinking about what kind of woman would be attracted to you as a person. Someone who finds you desirable because of your character, your charm, your sense of humour... someone who shares your interests, values, and attitude to life.

    Great to know where the G-spot is, but not if you haven't got anything in common with her! It's a relationship you want to seek here - shared moments and fun times with someone on your wavelength. From there the rest can develop naturally.

    So, where are these women going to magically appear from? Well, sometimes partners do suddenly appear in your life - and other times you have to make a bit of an effort to go out and look for them. Sitting at home and staying in the same old routine definitely won't help the cause, but you say you're taking classes at a community college, which is great and exactly the right kind of thing.

    Get out and about by targeting things that really interest you - join more classes, courses or local societies. Volunteer at events, try salsa or ballroom dancing, rambling, photography, book clubs, charity work. Investigate singles' nights and dating agencies.

    And try not to get hung up on this issue of your virginity... have some fun and just start to enjoy the company of women who enjoy doing the same things that you do. I'm sure you'll make a lot of friends, and once you meet the right person, you'll never look back.

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