• I'm 55, single, and still very interested in sex but my problem is vaginal dryness. Is it just age?

    I'm 55, single, and still very interested in sex but my problem is vaginal dryness. Is it just age?

    Yes they do - and yes it's a lot to do with age! Many factors can cause vaginal dryness - it's extremely common.


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    I'm 55, single, and still very interested in sex. I write erotica and engage in masturbation on a regular basis. There is a man, yes, but my problem is vaginal dryness.

    Is it just age? Do other women have this problem?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    Yes they do - and yes it's a lot to do with age! Many factors can cause vaginal dryness - it's extremely common, but most women do have a lot less natural lubrication as they get older.

    As a woman matures, her level of oestrogen decreases - especially after the menopause - and this can result in a number of changes that affect lovemaking.

    The vagina becomes shorter, narrower, and less elastic, and vaginal lubrication takes longer to be produced. The amount is also much less, and not so acidic (which can make us more susceptible to vaginal and urinary tract infections such as cystitis).

    Medications like antihistamines, antidepressants and the Pill, together with your stress levels and how much you drink and smoke, can also have an influence.

    My advice is to allow yourself time to become fully aroused before intercourse, and always use a lubricant to enhance your sex life. There are umpteen specially formulated personal lubricants around now, and they can transform painful intercourse into slippery bliss.

    One of the safest and most effective on the market is called 'Yes' - available from Lovehoney (and you may also like to check out the 'Yestimonials' on the Yes website, where you can see for yourself how widespread this problem is!).

    'Yes' is the world's first and only certified organic personal lubricant - and because it's totally free from synthetic nasties or harmful chemicals, it actually nourishes, rather than irritates, the delicate vaginal membranes - which means it moisturises down below even if you're not sexually active. You can get a great range of Yes lubricants at Lovehoney - all delivered free.

    Sometimes the idea of using lubricant can make a man feel uncomfortable - he may wonder why he isn't enough to turn you on, and feel insulted that you should need any extra help.

    Massage his bruised ego with the following advice from ex-call girl Tracy Quan: "Tell him he's more, ahem, challenging than average. You really need that extra lube to keep things comfy, because you're not accustomed to a man of his hugely impressive dimensions."

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    Comments (2)

    • Di: July 16, 2009 01:16
      Do not worry! It's not to do with age neccesarily, millions of women suffer from this. Possibly try maybe a little more foreplay to get the juices flowing ( sorry ;)). If this does not work there are plenty of lubricants on the market which are so easily accesable and with all the fun and fruity flavours and textures i can assure you its very good fun! But please dont think there is anything wrong with you, we are all different and we all need to find different things that work for us.
    • Psy: July 19, 2009 10:55
      A good way of introducing lube is to make it part of massage - maybe use oils for massage and introduce a lube for the 'more delicate' areas. Be aware though, that massage oils should not be used internally, or with condoms (don't use them on his penis if penetration is going to take place), so wipe your hands on a towel or wet wipe before switching to lube.

      Once he's 'helped' you with your lube and massage, he'll be hooked!

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