My partner would like me to have a threesome. I am not sure - what should I do?
Your partner certainly isn't the only one with these thoughts, but my advice is that the reality here can be very different from the fantasy.
Question:
My partner would like me to have a threesome and would love to watch me have sex and oral with one or two men. I am not sure - we are in are 50s and need something to spice up our sex life (although we have always enjoyed a fairly active sex life doing just about everything two people can do).
This will be a first - what is your advice please, and it would be nice if I knew my partner is not the only one with these thoughts.
Julie Says:
Your partner certainly isn't the only one with these thoughts, but my advice is that the reality here can be very different from the fantasy.
Think carefully before embarking on a threesome as they can disrupt the balance of your relationship and bring out all the insecurities and jealousies - and reading between the lines Pat, you already sound a little troubled as to why your partner is wishing to bring someone else in on the act.
Talk it all through, and make sure you both want to. Never embark on a threesome just because he wants it - especially if you're harbouring serious doubts.
If you decide you would like to experiment - and for many people it is an intensely erotic experience - discuss the ground rules properly before you find your three-way partner. Then sit down together and talk about what's OK - and what's not OK - with them too. Pick someone you can both trust, and always use condoms - more people equals more risk.
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