• No matter how often I tell my husband what I want sexually, he doesn't satisfy me. Help!

    No matter how often I tell my husband what I want sexually, he doesn't satisfy me. Help!

    Your husband knows he's not fulfilling you sexually which is probably a serious confidence blow for him - as it would be for any man - and it needs to be remedied.


    Question for JulieQuestion:

    I have been married for 13 years to a lovely man but one thing is always wrong - sex. No matter how many times I tell him what works (and what doesn't work) he never seems to change.

    We have been to counselling but it hasn't really made a difference. Please can you help?

    Julie Answers...Julie Says:

    Rather than instructing your husband what to do to you - or issuing orders, try opening up the conversation. Ask him first if he has any hang-ups, or reservations, about what you want him to do. Then, rather than tell him, place his hand on yours and show him exactly how you like to be touched.

    Your husband knows he's not fulfilling you sexually which is probably a serious confidence blow for him - as it would be for any man - and it obviously needs to be remedied. Do exercise as much sensitivity and gentleness as you can though - and give him masses of praise when he does get it right!

    Encourage him with positive statements like "I love it when you stroke me like that" or "don't stop!" Send him texts or emails affirming how much you liked what he did - and demonstrate your appreciation by returning the favour with things that you know really turn him on.

    Spend some time on your own, experimenting with different ways to bring yourself to orgasm, so that you can show him specifically what you need.

    Try to keep it all as relaxed as possible - sharing a glass of wine in a fragrant bath together, or giving him a soothing massage will help diffuse any tension or nerves he may have.

    Once he's built up his confidence sexually, he'll be more open to trying new things and I'm sure the change you long for will take place.

    The Greatest Sex Tips in the WorldRefreshingly frank and funny, actress and presenter Julie Peasgood delivers practical information to transform your sex life. The Greatest Sex Tips in the World explores the world of eroticism, revealing secrets and techniques that will energise and enhance your enjoyment.


    Comments (1)

    • wet wet wet: June 20, 2009 08:01
      Show him see my posts on self masturbation with an audience - blows your mind and everything else..........
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