First time anal sex guide

Commonly thought of as one of the most taboo forms of sexual play, anal sex is also one of the most thrilling and pleasurable. For maximum G-spot and P-spot stimulation, follow our guide to first time anal sex...

When most people think of anal sex, one particular sensation springs to mind: pain! But it doesn't have to be like that.

This anal sex guide, coupled with patience, sensitivity and tons of lube, will mean the difference between a rough ride and unrivalled stimulation of your G-spot.

Talk dirty

When it comes to anal sex for the first time, you and you lover will have different thoughts, needs and fears. Uncharted sexual territory can be pretty damn exciting, but it can also be a little scary if you don't talk openly about it. 

One of the sexiest ways to discover anal sex is by reading a book on the subject. Tracey Cox's Hot Sex is a great place to start, with tips and advice on how to get it right and how to practise anal sex safely.

Spend some time in bed together reading about it. Your bedroom is an ideal place to familiarise yourselves with anal sex and get to know what it's all about. After you've read about it, talk to each other and discuss what you would like to try. You will both have different concerns and excitements, so getting you both on the same wavelength is paramount for a sizzling anal experience. 
 

Start slowly

It goes without saying that when you're trying something new, go slowly at first and explore tentatively rather than steaming ahead and risking injury. With that in mind, anal play is a great way to get you used to anal stimulation and an excellent form of getting you revved up for the real deal.

First of all, choose a lube you want to use. It's essential to use lubrication when indulging in any kind of anal activity. Thick, water-based lubes are ideal if you're an anal sex beginner, and Doc Johnson Anal Lube or Maximus Anal Lubricant are ideal.

Next, decide whether you want to start off by exploring each other's anal turn-ons by using your fingers or anal toys. If you want to go au natural and use your digits, lube up your index finger and slowly insert it into your lover's anus.

You can then progress to moving it in and out for stimulation of your partner's sphincter muscles. If this is getting you both wet, try a spot of rimming and pleasure your partner's anus with your tongue by gently licking at first, then darting it in and out. 
 

Toys for anal foreplay

The first rule of thumb before you consider putting anything into your lover's anus is to make sure your toy has a flared base or large pull ring. That way you can play safely without ending up in your local A&E. They may have seen it all before, but there's nothing less sexy than being wheeled into casualty with a cucumber protruding from your backside.

Anal dildos and vibrators have all been designed specifically for anal play, so choosing your toy couldn't be simpler. We love the BASIC Sex Toys Slimline Butt Buddy, Tracey Cox Supersex Silicone Anal Beads and the Temptation Mini Anal Vibrator, all of which are great for beginners.

Just remember to use lube! 
 

Getting down to business

By using plenty of anal foreplay, either with lubed-up anal toys, fingers or tongues, anal sex will be a more smooth and slippery ride. Regardless of how much lube you use during foreplay, you will need to reapply for actual anal sex. 

Whether you're using a strap-on or your cock, make sure you apply plenty of lube to yourself as well as your partner's anus, and use a condom. Never go from anus to vagina or anus to mouth without washing first.

The key to great anal sex is to go slowly, use variety in your thrusts and gradually build up momentum. The anus isn't designed for penetration, so you have to take it inch-by-inch and keep reassuring each other.

If you're the one penetrating your partner, allow them to control the depth and pace of your thrusts and stop immediately if either of you feels discomfort.

Remember: other parts of your lover's body can be stimulated during anal sex, and this can help to make your partner feel more relaxed and provide a greater thrill for both of you.

If your lover is controlling the depth and pace, stimulate their clit or penis with masturbation or a sexy vibrator. Just take your time, communicate and use lots of lube for astronomical anal pleasure!