• Strap-On Advice Galore - Getting Your Partner On Board

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    Does the idea of strapping on a dildo - or having your partner strap one on - make your heart go pitter-pat? That isn't so unusual, considering the number of times columns on pegging get viewed as soon as they show up on discussion forums.

    Over on the Orgasm Army forums, there is a discussion going on giving advice on how to talk a reluctant partner round the issue of strap-ons and pegging. If your partner is completely against anal play, or okay with anal, but not with pegging, you might find some helpful tips over there. It is always good to get the perspectives of people who have tried something or have reasons to not try something, so you can be clear with yourself and your partner what you want to try and don't want to attempt.

    From the boards:


    Well, I can't speak from personal experience as my wife was amazingly understanding about it. I think you need to talk it through calmly - the usual objections are a) it means your gay or b) it's dirty; both of which can be dispelled fairly easily. I reckon you need to arm yourself with the arguments against both these points before you tackle the matter again.

    As for the gay thing (a common silly comment made on forums when pegging is brought up) I point out that linking types of sexual stimulation to sexual orientation leads to so pretty silly suggestions - for example if a girl likes receiving oral then she is a closet lesbian or if a man likes doing his girl doggy style then he is really attracted to dogs and sheep :-)

    The 'it's dirty' thing is something she may need to read about on the web. Some people are convinced that you will end up covered in s#!t but, with only modest care this is completely untrue. If it helps I should say that my wife is a doctor and would not indulge in anything that was a problem from this point of view and I have a routine that ensures I'm really clean and ready to go in about 10 minutes.

    If she is worried that she will get nothing out of it then you should look at dildos like the Feeldoe as this certainly can provide enough stimulation for the wearer to orgasm.

    With knowledgeable people to talk to and get advice from, great harnesses with a wide range of dildo/vibrator sizes, lubes, and anal douche kits, there is something out there to help everyone get what they want.

    Comments (3)

    • Love the peg: August 27, 2008 01:02
      hey guys dont be ashamed if you have thought of your missus taking you frome behind. i have been with me partner now for a year and it took me 8 months to admit to her that the idea of being bent over by her was a real turn on. she was a bit nervous at first but now she really gets into it. my advice is explore with toys by yourself and get used the idea of a cock in your ass, once you feel comfy with this discuss fantasys with your partner and slowly steer the topic towards anal, now if you have a girl who likes it in the ass this is easy you can suggest she "gets you back" but if you girl thinks anal is "dirty" then ask her about her fantasies and indulge them whatever it may be just remember if you want something she has to get something out of it.

      overall its great fun and feels amazing so ask you never know she may be realy turned on by the idea of bending you over and pounding you sensless.

    • ken rogers: August 24, 2009 02:54
      i really want my wife to fuck me with a strap on but im not sure how to ask her is there anything i can do
    • LoveHoney - Carly: August 25, 2009 09:17
      Check out these threads on the LoveHoney Forums for more information about strap-on sex, ken rogers.

      Many people have been in your exact same position but have managed to enjoy pegging (female to male strap-on sex) with their current partners simply by talking!

      www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/sex-talk/95443-strap-on-sex-female-to-male/

      www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/sex-talk/66219-pegging/

      www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/anal-sex-toys/11019-pegging-any-good-for-the-girls/

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