• Three rules for a successful threesome

    You may think the hardest part is finding someone to have a threesome with you and your lover, but you'll be surprised how complicated a threesome can actually be


    Let's face it, a threesome with two girls ranks as one of the top male fantasies of all time, especially if he knows you might be into the fantasy as well. But turning that safe fantasy into an exciting but potentially troublesome reality is another matter.

    After all, not everyone is the same – you may view sex as a soulful, bonding experience that brings you and your partner closer each time you do. Your partner may not invest so many emotions in sex, and would possibly see a threesome as a thrilling extension of your existing sexual relationship, not pausing to consider how it might affect your sexual and emotional dynamic as a partnership after the threesome has ended.

    We're not saying you should never have threesomes – that's absolute rubbish! Threesomes can be mind-blowingly brilliant, scary but exciting and could change your sex life for the better. You may even discover new characteristics to your sexual personality that you were never aware of before.

    But a threesome is not something to take lightly. There's the potential that it could also put an irreversible dent in your relationship: if you or your lover are prone to fits of jealousy, tread cautiously and weigh up whether it's worth the possible arguments that may ensue. Keep the following three rules for a threesome in mind when discussing the potential of having one with your lover:

    1. The most important rule of all is to make sure that the only reason you are partaking in a threesome is because both you and your lover want one. Both of you! If you're just going along with the threesome because you want to please your partner, or even worse because you're sexually bored with them, then don't do it – you'll only hurt yourself in the long run.

    2. Establish ground rules. It's easy to feel jealous as hell when watching your partner getting hot with another person right in front of you, especially if it's been quite some time since you've made them that wet/hard. So make sure you talk about what you are all comfortable with and what's off limits. You may want to ban kissing the third person on the mouth, for example, which you and your lover can keep exclusively for you.

    3. Whatever you do, don't have a threesome with one of your mates! It doesn't matter how insanely hot they are, how big his dick is or how huge her tits are, a threesome with a mate could potentially ruin your friendship if it goes wrong. The aftermath could be even trickier to deal with – would you feel comfortable letting your lover go out for a drink with a mate who only a few days ago had her mouth around his penis? Exactly...

    Comments (4)

    • rosa lees: March 06, 2008 20:11
      in a straight relationship how do you decide whether its 2 men and 1 woman and vice versa
    • Sue: March 07, 2008 16:06
      whatever makes you hot under the collar...
      And if both of you lie both ideas... try both.
    • Hayley: August 13, 2013 22:28
      How and which toys are good for a ffm threesome?
    • Terry mardy: November 12, 2016 17:51
      I am having sex with a couple who are my friends and this has been working out fine for over a year now ... last comment about not having a threesomes with a friend is rubbish
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