Draw a nude portrait of your lover
Nervous about friends finding your home made porno films and saucy pictures? Try drawing each other in the nude instead...
Nude drawings of your and your lover can still be as kinky as taking pics or filming your own porno flick, but they can easily be destroyed with a handy shredder or lit match.
Drape your sofa in a rich throw and scatter some interesting objects around to make it feel like more of an art studio set, then spread yourself on the sofa and let your lover sketch your nude body.
Afterwards, take the nude drawing from your lover and write little notes next to each of your body parts that he has drawn, giving simple instructions about what you would like him to do to each of those body parts, then hand it back to him and act them out.