• What is BDSM?

    Seen the word BDSM before but don't know what it means? Here's a general overview to get you up to speed...


    BDSM is a term used to described certain aspects of sex that can be split into these major groups: Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.

    Although some people think that BDSM is 'kinky', in some cases it doesn't have to involve sex at all – the mental connotations of some acts are more of a turn-on the than prelude of a particular act leading to sex.

    Many specific practices by lovers who indulge in BDSM are performed in neutral, mutually consenting relationships or group activities. This emphasis on informed consent in of paramount importance when carrying out a BDSM act because it BDSM often involves varying degrees of pain, physical restraint and servitude (tying your lover up, making them your sex slave, spanking them or putting a dog chain around their neck and making them crawl around on all fours are just a few examples of various BDSM themed acts).

    Informed consent by two individuals is known as SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) or RACK (Risk-aware Consensual Kink), and it's common practice for lovers who indulge in regular BDSM acts to introduce a 'safe word', which when spoken ensures that the current act stops immediately if things start to get out of hand, as 'No' can sometimes mean 'Yes!'

    Comments (1)

    • lisa: September 19, 2007 22:23
      I have done the tying up bit with a blindfold been left in the room while my patner went downstairs had a drink with his mate you lay there waiting for him to come back and then you suddenly hear voices and you wonder who it is it is a big thrill highly recommended
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