Five Easy Steps To Pleasurable Anal Sex
However, there is a reason why so many people enjoy the use of anal sex toys - when done properly, anal play can add a whole new dimension of pleasure to your sex life. Many people are astounding by the new sensations and powerful orgasms they can experience during anal play and anal sex.
Anal sex should never be painful. If it is, slow down or stop completely, and remember that pain is your body's way of letting you know something is wrong. ,
Follow the five easy steps below to ensure your first approach to anal sex is one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences you've ever had.
So here's how to do it...
Step 1 - Get clean
It goes without saying that if you're sexually stimulating an area that's usually devoted to daily ablutions, you will need to ensure that your anus is squeaky clean. Have a relaxing bath beforehand and thoroughly clean the area. Many anal sex beginners like to use an anal douche to guarantee complete and utter cleanliness, and it's something we highly recommend too.
If you're conscious about your lover seeing your anus in full for the first time, why not gently shave or wax the skin between your butt cheeks to make sure they're porn-flick worthy? You'll be surprised how much more relaxed and confident this will make you.
Step 2 - Use lube
Don't even think about attempting any form of anal activity without using some form of lubricant. There's a raft of great lubes available for you to buy but the best ones are the thick, specially formulated anal lubricants.
Try Lovehoney Discover Water-Based Anal Lubricant - it's a thick lube designed to make anal sex comfortable and painless and is water-based, so it's compatible for use with condoms and sex toys.
If you have particularly sensitive skin, you may want to try Sliquid Sassy Glycerin-Free Anal Lubricant - it has less ingredients than more lubricants so there's less chance of irritation.
Step 3 - Start small
If this is your first time trying anal sex, it makes sense to start off by using your lover's fingers or a beginner's butt plug like the Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Butt Plug (£9.99) to familiarize your anus with the feeling of penetration.
You lover should start by lubing up the plug or their finger and start off with the tip, then gently work their finger or plug in until it is submerged.
You should continue to do this with up to three fingers or by going from a smaller to a larger butt plug, but only if you're still feeling comfortable and pleasured. Don't forget to use lube on each finger you insert.
Step 4 - Take it slow
So your lover has been penetrating you with his fingers and you're loving it. Now comes the penis bit: make sure your lover's penis is well lubed and protected with a condom. Next, lie either on your tummy with a cushion underneath your pelvic bone or lie on your side.
Take one of your hands and use your fingers to pull your butt cheeks gently apart. This will help guide your lover into your anus without too much 'prodding,' making it a lot easier for both of you. Your lover should begin by slowly inserting the tip of his penis into your anus. Remember that this will feel marginally painful because it is your first time (just like with first-time vaginal sex), but it will get easier. However, if you're in a great deal of pain or feel uncomfortable then ask your lover to stop immediately.
Once your lover has inserted the tip of his penis, ask him to gently penetrate your anus further but at a gentle pace that you feel comfortable with. Continue like this until your lover's penis is fully submerged and you can build up a rhythmic thrust comfortably.
Some people don't experience an orgasm when trying anal sex for the first time, but the more you and your lover try anal sex the better it will get.
Step 5 - Clean up
After each time you've finished having anal sex, make sure that you thoroughly clean your anus and your partner's penis. A good wipe with Pjur Med Clean Fleece Tissues should leave you feeling fresh again but a quick shower with your lover is even better.
If you used any toys, remember to give them a thorough clean with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner and store them seperately once dry.
If you're experiencing soreness after anal sex, soak in a warm bath and wear breathable cotton underwear to bed.
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