• Fisting your lover

     Liquid Silk LubricantI've had a few private messages from guys asking how to fist a girl. It's true that some women love a huge amount of penetration in the form of fisting, and some love to be fisted regularly, so here goes...

    Before we go any further, here's a word of warning: each woman's pain threshold is different, so if you are going to try fisting your lover, keep asking her throughout if she's OK, if she's enjoying it and, for god's sake, stop when she tells you to stop!


    Trim your nails
    This may seem obvious but, nevertheless, you will cause a lot of damage if you try fisting your lover with long, sharp, jagged nails. Trim and file your nails beforehand or treat yourself to a manicure. She'll thank you for it, and will feel much more relaxed knowing that you have been thoughtful enough to prepare yourself beforehand.

    Go down on her first
    As with all aspects of sex, giving your lover head will relax her vaginal muscles, making your entry a lot less enjoyable (and less painful) for her. This means she'll be ready for you to start inserting your fingers into her pussy – you could even combine oral sex with some light fingering to get her used to the sensation.

    Use tons of lube
    Another obvious point, but an important one nonetheless. Lubricant is paramount when fisting your lover, even if she feels really juicy already. Each time you slip a finger in, add another dollop of lube to make sure her pussy is well oiled to accommodate the rest of your fingers. O' My Natural Lubricant is great for this kind of sexual activity, as is Liquid Silk Lubricant .

    Start off slow
    Unless your lover is a hardcore porn star used to a great deal of fisting, you will need to begin with one finger, then two, and then work your way up. The amount of time your lover will need to get used to each finger varies from woman to woman. Some need several weeks of stretching with three to four fingers, others take to it much sooner. You must keep talking to your lover throughout about how she's feeling, and you must stop when she tells you to. You will get there eventually, but only when your lover feels ready for it.

    Full fisting
    This is the big one! Once your lover has let you slide three fingers inside her pussy, it's time to get your forth finger and thumb in there. In order to do this without damaging her or your fingers, tuck your little finger and your index finger underneath your middle and ring finger. As you're pushing further into your lover's pussy, slide your thumb underneath your finger to form a wedge. This is a much easier 'shape' to gently work into her pussy. Once you've got your fingers and thumb nicely inside, ask your lover if she's ready for you to push on to your knuckles.

    This is always the hardest part, so go slow, don't force anything and relax your lover as much as possible. One great tip is to ask your lover to gently push down on your hand, opening her vaginal muscles further so that your fingers, thumb and knuckles can work their way past the muscles around the entrance to her pussy. Once your hand is completely encased in her pussy, slowly roll your hand into a fist.

    Fuck her gently
    Before you even think of fist fucking your lover, ask her what she wants you to do next. Some women love the feeling of fist fucking, others prefer to have a gentle backwards and forwards motion without much movement. When your lover has had her fill, gently unroll your fist and place your thumb under your fingers in a wedge shape before slowly and gently sliding out again.

    Comments (6)

    • nicola: May 21, 2007 22:47
      all i can say to that i ouch!! it sounds nothing but painfull to me!!!
    • Richard: May 22, 2007 14:48
      Yep, certainly sounds like an acquired taste. Hang on, that doesn't sound quite right. Don't you walk funny for a week afterwards?
    • nicola: May 22, 2007 19:25
      a week!!! i dont think you`d ever be able t work ever again..... unless ya a bucket, excuse the expression!!!!
    • richard: May 23, 2007 08:48
      LOL (again). Did you mean "walk again" or "work again"? That would be some pretty serious fisting to stop you ever working again. :-)
    • mary: October 02, 2008 07:23
      Absolute ectasy - you have described it so well.
    • mama: January 07, 2009 16:43
      just like any form of exercise stretching is good for you, you don't walk funny or need a bucket ect its not painful either if you go slowly and do it right, sex is much more fun after fisting... give fisting a go... don't believe the ill informed.. good blog thanks xxx
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